Everyone Should Learn These Innovative Approaches Of Aggressive Stress Management

Here are some examples of STRESS JUDO COACHING principles and techniques, to attack stress and transom it into opportunities.
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We have dozens of articles, blog posts, and podcasts, explaining the STRESS JUDO COACHING approach and methods.  The above examples give you a flavor of these methods.

USING LITIGATION PRINCIPLES FOR ULTIMATE STRESS MANAGEMENT

Movies and TV shows love to portray the maverick shoot from the hip trial lawyer. He takes the hopeless case and wins it handily. She takes every adversity in the preparation and turns into strategic gold. The reality is that successful trial attorneys focus on planning, details and prioritization. For most people, just listing these stresses them out! But the reality is that this approach can help you manage and eliminate stress in your life.

Trial attorneys determine reality based on facts. Facts are supported by evidence. The relative importance of facts is determined by the legal issues being considered. The legal issues are determined by the remedy being sought.

For example. One day in August, a man comes home drunk and yells at his wife. She leaves and goes to her boyfriend's house. Meanwhile, the young children are tired of their father getting so loud, so they tie a pillow over his face after he passes out. This causes him to suffocate and die. At the reading of the will, a stranger claims to be the man's illegitimate daughter and also claims that the kids who tied the pillow to his face are not his biological children. Pretty interesting, right? But none of these facts are relevant if the judge is trying to decide if the man filed a fraudulent tax return 2 Aprils ago.

Litigation is concerned with the accuracy and relevance of facts. This is why trial attorneys track down witnesses and documents, to lay as much support that the facts they present are more accurate and credible than the other side's.

Litigation is also concerned with the relevance and importance of those facts within the context of the issues being ordered to the judge or jury. This is why lawyers research previous decisions, to provide guidance as to what facts are important. This is also why attorneys use experts as witnesses, to explain to the judge or jury the background and context of an issue.

The trial attorney develops a plan to investigate the facts and issues, and then to present them in such a way that the judge or jury must find in his or her client's favor. This is the goal of litigation, but it must comport with the lawyer's rules of ethics. In other words, the evidence and case law can be presented most favorably to the client, but it cannot be lied about or distorted.

How does this apply to stress management and personal excellence? First, focusing on the facts of a situation oftentimes provides immediate stress relief. Learning the reality of what one is facing can relieve the stress of the unknown.

Second, determining what is stressful about a situation (the "issues" that the stress is causing you to evaluate) can help you prioritize your response. Eliminating stressors or potential stressors can eliminate an enormous amount of stress.

Finally, developing a plan to investigate the stressor and determine what resources you have, and you need, to attack the stress, can eliminate the stress of feeling overwhelmed by the stress.

This is how trial attorneys handle the stress of a courtroom battle. Internally, the lawyer has investigated the judge or jury, and the other side's case. He or she has developed plans and fall back plans for what could go wrong during the trial. The client has been prepared and counseled on how to assist during the several phases of the trial. Having plans and preparation helps the trial attorney handle stress. This approach can help you, too.

Evaluate the stressors the same way the lawyer evaluates the issues in the case.  Research and find out the facts, as knowledge is one of the best stress relievers.  Have a definite plan, so that interruptions and irrelevancies are ignored.  But the plan must be flexible to accommodate changes and surprises.

STRESS JUDO COACHING is specifically designed to train you to do exactly this.  Rick Carter has taken the tactics and strategies of martial arts and trial litigation, and created this coaching program to attack and transform the stress in your life.  For the three FREE reports (The Truth: how your current stress management program is probably killing you; The Remedy: what a sthenic oriented stress transformation program would solve this; and The Overview: how Stress Judo Coaching implements this program) and to join the Community of Stress Judo Coaching practitioners, just enter your name and email address to the right.  We use the “what is your concern?” box to investigate and circulate exclusive reports based 100% on member concerns.

A NEW METHOD OF STRESS MANAGEMENT: STRESS TRANSFORMATION AND STHENIC REACTION

Stress, as most people use that term, really refers to the reaction that you have to a stressful situation. This is the “fight or flight” reaction. It is the instinctive and unconscious preparation of all your internal systems - muscles, emotions, adrenaline, will - to respond stress as a threat. You either fight a threat or you run away from it. The cost on you internally is enormous. Each such reaction degrades the system’s ability to respond, much like using a knife dulls the edge ever so slightly with each use. Sharpening the edge restores the knife but removes some layer of the knife, shortening its useful lifetime. But there is another way to deal with the stressful situation so that your internal systems have a completely different - and strengthening - reaction. This is to transform the stressful situation into an opportunity for personal effectiveness growth.

Your intent on handling stress is to get your body out of ”fight or flight” as quickly as possible. Most stress management systems teach you methods to do this, or to minimize the reaction. Things like meditation, deep breathing, working out, time management - all of these can and should be used to reduce the severity of your reaction to stress. The next level of handling stressful situations is to actually remove this reaction completely. And a higher level of handling stress is to replace this with a positive bodily reaction, one that actually improves all the responding systems.

What is the opposite of “fight or flight”? My online searches came up mostly with the “relaxation response” but this seems to be inadequate. This is actually the state that the body moves in to after the chaos of “fight or flight.” So it seems less like an opposite and more like a consequence. I continued searching and found a word I had never heard before: sthenic. This is defined by The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, 4th Edition as “strong, vigorous, or active.” It is defined by The Century Dictionary and Cyclopedia as “Strong; robust; characterized by power of organization or energy of function, as a part or organ of an animal.” This is a much better definition of the state you want to be in when facing a stressful situation.

So how do you go from the “fight or flight” state to the sthenic state? By transforming the stressful situation from a perceived threat to a perceived opportunity. Think of your reaction when you are faced with a positive opportunity or even are just curious about an opportunity. Your emotions tend to be positive, your internal reactions are open and accepting, and your mental state is one of expectation, not fear or trepidation.

You most often feel stress when you feel your boundaries are being pushed in on. This can be your emotional boundaries being pushed by a death of someone you love, or your self-esteem boundaries being pushed by the fear of a new position at work. It could be your comfort boundaries being pushed by public speaking. It could be your expectation boundaries being pushed by the frustration of remaining in a position that you have out-grown professionally or educationally. Sometimes your boundaries are actually attacked, as in a mugging in a dark alley or a mugging in a department meeting.

Your body correctly and accurately perceives these as threats. The “fight or flight” state is necessary to preserve your bodily and emotional integrity. So you need to get your body and mind into the sthenic state as quickly as possible, to achieve your highest level of personal effectiveness. This is very similar to how a martial artist deals with an attack. A martial artist aims to be in a state of non-fighting. This is the origin of the commonly used phrase “there is no first attack in karate” for example. But when an attack does occur, the martial artist reacts to it and aims to return to the state of non-fighting as quickly as efficiently as possible. This is the origin of the commonly used phrase “to annihilate with one blow” in karate, or more commonly: “one punch, one kill.” This is most likely a holdover from the samurai days, when one blow with a sword could kill your opponent (or you. The phrase applies both ways). While no one studying martial arts intends to kill his or her opponent or attacker, the intent is to end the fight, favorably for you, as quickly as possible.

Since you achieve a sthenic state when you are curious about a situation, when you are solving a problem, or just interested in learning more about a topic, the secret is to turn the stressful situation into a curiosity situation. What opportunity is available if you overcome the stressor? What prize is on the other of the boundary you are pushing against? How can this problem be solved in your favor? This turns the “fight or flight” reaction into a sthenic reaction of vigor, power, and activity.

Training yourself to adopt this attitude toward stressful situations will reduce the stress in your life. It will make your relationships be smoother and less dramatic. It will allow you to be the calm in the midst of chaos, because while everyone else is panicking at the indecision, you will be looking it as a puzzle to be solved. You can then transform each stressful situation into a positive opportunity and actually look forward to those situations. Crazy, huh?

STRESS JUDO COACHING is specifically designed to train you to do exactly this. Rick Carter has taken the tactics and strategies of martial arts and trial litigation, and created this coaching program to attack and transform the stress in your life. For the three FREE reports (The Truth: how your current stress management program is probably killing you; The Remedy: what a sthenic oriented stress transformation program would solve this; and The Overview: how Stress Judo Coaching implements this program) and to join the Community of Stress Judo Coaching practitioners, just go to the STRESS JUDO COACHING website and enter your name and email address to the right. We use the “what is your concern?” box to investigate and circulate exclusive reports based 100% on member concerns.

Stress Judo Coaching Personal Excellence: BLACK Belt Review Module (20 of 20)

This podcast looks at the 12 modules you have received training in and how the skills and principles coalesce into your personal stress transformation program.  A discussion of the philosophy of STRESS JUDO COACHING shows how you can continue to train and develop, and how the 3 levels of personal training can take you deeper into the black belt expansion of skills.

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Stress Judo Coaching Personal Excellence: BLACK Belt Daily Practice Module (19 of 20)

The Daily Practice module of the BLACK Belt level teaches you the principles to develop your daily stress transformation system.  You will integrate the skills you have learned with your experience to develop your personalized system to attack your personal stressors.  This is the start of the lifelong training and perfecting of the skills you have learned and the skills you brought with you.  A black belt in every art is expected to advance the art.

The podcast is at personal excellence.

To learn more about the training embodied in this series of podcasts, please join the Community at http://www.stressjudocoaching.us

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Stress Judo Coaching Personal Excellence: BLACK Belt Energy Module (18 of 20)

The Energy module of the BLACK Belt level is to help ensure that you have the energy to fight stress, and the control over your stress to use it as needed.  You will learn how to access your internal energy and eternal energy, to overwhelm the energy stress is bringing against you.  By learning control over your energy, you will have the means and the confidence that you will always stronger than any stressful situation.  This module looks at all forms of energy, from chi and chakra to life force and simple nutrition.

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Stress Judo Coaching Personal Excellence: BLACK Belt Overview (17 of 20)

The BLACK Belt level contains the Energy module and the Daily Stress Program module.  With these two modules, you will have all the skills to create your personal integrated stress transformation program.  The Energy module gives you the techniques to access and focus your internal energy, to be always stronger than any stressful situation.  The Daily Stress Program module shows you how to combine all the skills you have learned into your personal program.  At the end of the last module, you are now ready to develop and improve these skills in every stressful situation you encounter - and overcome.

The podcast is at personal excellence.

To learn more about the training embodied in this series of podcasts, please join the Community at http://www.stressjudocoaching.us

Joining the Community offers 2 unique and exclusive immediate benefits to you:

1. We research and publish proprietary reports based on current feedback and suggestions from the Community; and

2. Members of the Community are encouraged to share their experiences and knowledge, so you get literally dozens of coaches, for free.

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